How to Reach Your Goals

allymmmounga
Jan 13, 2020
6 min read

Updated: Apr 18, 2020

HEY YOU! I'm so sorry for being gone so long. Fact is that it's been a pain trying to publish any posts with all of the moving chaos and no wifi and yada yada yada. Anyway, it's January. This whole month is "New Year" to me. It's about Reflecting on the year that just wrapped up, and taking those thoughts with me into this one. So here's a little story about how 2019 turned out for me, and who 2020 will be over here. And most importantly, some snips about things you might wanna take into your new year!

It was incredibly prevalent by the end, that this year was about growing—in every sense of the word. At the very beginning, I had this wild desire to name it “The Year of The Bloom,” and an unnerving feeling that I wouldn’t bloom this year at all. Because when 2019 began, I was a bit lost—in a winter season. And looking back I have seen just what I had feared: that I hadn’t become a fully bloomed and thriving poppy or rose in a garden where everything had fallen into place—Until this moment when I realized that I have.

This year truly put me through the ringer and somehow I’m all the better for it. I’ve been broken hearted from the loss of many things that held all of my love. And I have come to feel as though they’re still with me. I have healed. And I have bloomed. You see, at the beginning of the year I was expecting a summer—excitement, hot days, fireworks, and to see the brightest colors possible on each of my petals. I forgot the other kind of bloom: spring. Soft rains and hard rains and a season of growth. It’s rising, waking up as a tougher flower, and it’s better than I ever imagined.

The proclaiming of “The Year of The Bloom” was an unusual affair. I usually don’t associate such things with times. “Accomplish by” dates rub me the wrong way because I’m an intuitive girl. And as intuitive girls do, I feel around for what I do like and rollllll with it. For a while now, I’ve been discovering the balances between scheduled and not, mega productive/let’s get down to business with a mighty to do list and spur of the moment/unplanned days. I’ve always been an ambitious girl—big goals girl, but I’m not loving on a big old schedule. I wanna get things done with joy, to enjoy everything. Here is what I’ve learned to do:

Sit down, pull out a paper, write down what I want, but feel it first. I’ll feel it in my heart if it’s right, I’ll get a nudge of “Yes I am capable of this big feat” and “I can bring it to fruition," or a "Maybe I'm not ready yet. I'm not feelin' it."

Feel It

And I’ve got to really want it. I’ve got to want to listen to podcasts, watch YouTube videos, and talk about it. 2019 is when I really started doing this with my passions, and it’s the reason I am where I am today. Whether things I wanted to directly implement or things I was simply interested in, I immersed myself in them.

This had everything to do with the bloom because it showed me my passions and gave me purpose. You know, after seeing people do all of these incredible things for quite some time, you can’t help but want to give it a shot too.

So here’s my advice to you: find out what you want this year. Recognize your passions. Because I believe that when you feel a great love for something, it’s because you were made for that. Where your passions and skills meet is your purpose. Once you’ve figured out your goals, choose one that you feel ready to work on, and come up with a lil plan. Make it something that you want to spend time doing. If your goal is to make more money, start monetizing your hobbies and skills--I mean if you're a great artist: sell art, love babies: babysit. If you want better health, find a form of exercise that you love. This is your life, your world, you are the only person that has to live it, so why try to do things that make you feel miserable? Love what you do. Spend some time thinking about what you want, and plan it out baby! Write it down if you like to write. Whiteboard it, tell your best friend or mom or dog. Just get it out there, and feel good about it.

This year I have monthly goals. January is Morning Routine. And my favorite way to change my little world is by having a big, general, simple goal like "morning routine." It doesn't even say "Have a better" or "Do this every day." The thought is that this is something I want to improve on this month. I start there and then break it down. This one is something I've spent my whole life doing, right? So I've kind of come to find what does and doesn't work for me. I know that I need eight hours of sleep to be a happy girl, no exceptions, can't help it. I know that I need to leave the house at 7:35, and that I love to be up in the mornings. That being said, a realistic way of going about this goal is:

start getting ready for bed around 8:30 if home
in bed at 9:00
yoga, scriptures, reading until about 9:30
go sleepz
wake up 6, no rush, get ready, hang out, breakfast
happy.

These are things I'm pretty used to doing. They're a smooth transition and because of that, I know I can stick to this goal. It's as simple as that. So darling, think about what you do now, and what you want to be doing soon. Be reasonable, and take some sweet little babysteps. Don't be hard on yourself. Don't expect too much. It will only hurt you. All you need to do is improve a tiny bit.

Note: I write it all down because I like to see it all in front of me.

Find what works for you.

**Now remember, the key to all of this is not having any expectations except for one: that you will end up where you need to be and if you work hard, it will pay off--whatever that looks like.**

Next give that plan a try, and if either you don’t like it or it doesn’t work, make a new one. The process of progress is trial and error. Take baby steps, you’re more likely to succeed if you make small improvements instead of big leaps. Be patient and don’t put too much pressure on yourself.

I love you.

You are a human being and you’re capable of anything. We create the most incredible things: harnessing sparks and using them to give us light when it's dark, mixing together little goops to come up with paint to color the ceiling of The Sistine Chapel, writing poems for each other, mac 'n cheese. You can do anything baby. Work hard and get what you want.

Human Beings living in a world of their creations: roads, streetlights, each other.

Name this year based on what you want to accomplish. This is my Year of Blue. I feel like I’m going to see that color everywhere, and I’ve never been a big fan, I’m a warm toned girl, but I’m headed off to a blue university once fall rolls around. And there’s something in the air, telling me that it’s true. True blue.

And... the year is 2020. Maybe there's something here for vision--

--Maybe this is a year of discovery. Maybe we find purpose or our eyes are opened to another grand idea. Maybe these sights come and go constantly, but this year we decide to pay them more attention. Let's think about that too.

Thanks for reading, and if this post made you happy or inspired, please give a lil like and please comment what you favored about it so I know what to do more of!

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